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About the Author: Melissa Fay Greene

Melissa Greene has been a contributor to NPR, The New York Times Magazine, The New Yorker, LIFE, Good Housekeeping, Newsweek, The Atlantic, Readers Digest, Ms., The Wilson Quarterly, Redbook, and Salon.com She lives in Atlanta with her husband, Don Samuel, a criminal defense attorney They have been married for 28 years and are the parents of nine children Molly, Seth, Lee, Lily, Jesse adopted



10 thoughts on “There Is No Me Without You: One Woman's Odyssey to Rescue Africa's Children

  1. says:

    NO SPOILERSHaving completed the book, here are my thoughts Everybody should read this book When you say millions of AIDS orphans, it doesn t really mean anything When you come to know a few, their thoughts, their experiences, their fears and dreams, the numbers take on a face and they mean something It is much better to understand one individual in depth than millions without faces You fall in love with some of these children Most parents wanted to adopt baby girls Do you know who were willing to adopt older children, even the tougher boys The Americans 0 So the older kids were taught to know a smattering of English Everyone is rich in America they told each other And some said, When you go to America, you turn white When does that happen Haregewoin asked a little girl The child confidently replied, As soon as you get off the plane page 265 These children would whisper to each other does that child have a mother Think, such is NOT taken as a given for these orphans There is another issue that is discussed in the book What happens when someone attains success What happens when you suceed At some point succes seems to always lead to trouble Why is it that what starts out wonderful must be critized You will see what I am talking about if you read the book This book made me regret not having adopted children, older children, children with problems They need caring adults than anything They need to he held They need to be loved And read about Haregewoin she is drawn as a very human person A real individual This book should be read Numbers are given a face Halfway through For me, this is an important book to read I like that it summarizes Ethiopian ancient and recent history I like that it clearly states the numbers behind the AIDS situation in Africa and Ethiopia, specifically I like the summaries about medical history, the medications and supplies and when they became available I appreciate the discussion of how AIDS maybe arose Most importantly, the numbers are given a face They are no longer just numbers The pictures in the book are interwoven with the stories of these individuals lives To understand what these numbers of AIDS victims mean you must put a face on them This book is doing that I am about halfway through.


  2. says:

    This is the book that is causing me to rethink my life and try to decide if I am living a meaningful life Am I doing enough good or should I sell my possessions, move to Africa or India and dedicate my life to something useful than having a socially conscious job and owning a home.Haregewoin Teferra was a middle class woman in Ethiopia, a professional woman with an husband who was a teacher and two beautiful and beloved daughters After her husband passes away she raises her daughters to adulthood After one of her daughters contracts AIDS and dies, Haregewoin goes into mourning, believing her life is over Her priest comes to her with a baby that has been orphaned by AIDS and starts her on a journey that transforms her life She now runs an orphanage that is inundated with the children of the AIDS epidemic.This is a appalling story of the utter waste of human life that the world has let continue long after successful treatments had been discovered to slow the disease and even reverse it in infants It is also heartbreaking how painful death is for the millions of adults and children that have contracted the disease The numbers of dead or dying are almost incomprehensible but threaded through it all is the reality that one person can make a difference.This is a compelling story where facts are interspersed with personal stories of children that are alive, well and even in some cases, thriving because someone dared to ignore the stigma of AIDS to give these children a home and a chance Better yet, it is also well researched and well written.


  3. says:

    This book really taught me a lot both intellectually and personally It taught me that I haven t the first clue about poverty, the orphan crisis, about Africa and about AIDS The author writes in a journalistic style about a current day Ethiopian woman who after the death of her husband and later her daughter decides to enter a life of hermitude As she goes to say her good byes to a priest friend he asks her to take in a street girl and care for her She reluctantly says yes With in a few months she is mother to 8 children all orphaned by AIDS or poverty With in a few years she is running 2 homes of 50 plus children, one for healthy children and one for children with AIDS or HIV Her dedication to her children, her open compassion and unwillingness to turn any away are humbling and convicting You are saying in your heart, You can t take any in one thought and the next, But you can t send them off with out help, with out hope in the next This true, but griping tale leads you from Ethiopia, America and into the hearts of those effected by AIDS I had never had sympathy for those with AIDS until I saw the truth of how it effects people, children and families that love each other It broke my heart with each chapter and child left to fend for themselves More than that I have questioned how I could choose not to see sickness, poverty and the fatherless how Christ sees them It has convicted me to the core and pointed out the complete sinfulness of this polished life I am blessed to live While reading this book my daughter got a very bad bout of the stomach flu She got very dehydrated We were fortunate to be able to take her 3 miles to an ER and have her receive several rounds of fluids and admitted for watchful care until her high fever went down The whole time I held her and cried, thinking that some poor mother in Ethiopia or Asian or else where was with out that hope She was hundreds of miles from even the most basic medical care, with out any money and even with out clean fluid to give her sweet baby If I were her my baby would have died I prayed all night for God to grant those women hope and what they needed, to save their babies as he was surely saving mine Now what do I do That is the place I am at How do I know this and do nothing


  4. says:

    To be honest I found a lot of the writing a bit too speculative telling us about how children felt, when the author was not there, let alone in the mind of the child concerned But that is only a minor quibble This is an amazing story about an amazing Ethiopian woman Haregewoin Teferra who took lots of children orphaned by AIDS, into her home.I very much like the way the author interspersed the story with theories about how AIDS may have come into being, and the fantastic politics of the giant drug corporations, and their battle to keep AIDS drugs patented, and wildly expensive way out of the reach of poorer countries Never was the difference between the haves and the have nots starkly exposed The statistics are just mind boggling.It was also great pleasure to read about the experiences of families who had adopted Ethopian children in America including the author It cannot have been easy for the children, nor their step parents , yet there were so many happy endings.I feel I have learnt an incredible amount from this book it was really outstanding.


  5. says:

    After reading Melissa Fay Greene s funny No Biking in the House Without a Helmet, I picked up this earlier book about the woman who runs the orphanage from which some of Green s children came Somehow I missed it when it came out, despite its winning a slew of awards that year It is a powerful book, and it took me a long time to finish it because I needed time to absorb its impact The book is not maudlin nor manipulative, but its subject, AIDS orphans, is tragic.Greene is an excellent writer, both for the way she summarizes mountains of research and for the way she interweaves that research with stories about everyday life in the orphanage I m sure she knows the impact of the story she s telling, so she laces the sadness and tragedy with humor and history I learned a lot about Ethiopia as a nation, about how AIDS might have started leading theory mutation from infected needles used in inoculations , about drug companies and patents, about adoption processes And I felt like I got to know Mrs Haregewoin Teferra, who died in 2009, after this book was written.Teferra was a widow whose own daughter died of AIDS, back when it was known as Slim disease because of the way people wasted away from it Teferra nursed her while she was dying In grief, deciding that she had no reason to live any longer, she decided to join a community who lived in a cemetery near a church As she stopped by the church for a final prayer, the priest asked her if she could take in a teenage street girl who had nowhere else to live Teferra was startled, but then decided that she would go home to think about it, and then decided that yes, she could The teenage girl was joined by a teenage boy And then by two little girls And then by and and children Over 400 Word had spread Police officers would bring her children Dying parents would bring her their children hand her a baby, and then fall over in the dust Relatives who couldn t care for them would bring her children Just by taking in children, she ended up founding an orphanage, and then another, one for children with AIDS themselves, and one for children without The stigma of AIDS was huge people did not want to admit they had it, and they did not want contact with these children whose families had died from it There are over a million children in Ethiopia alone who have been orphaned 11% of all children there 10% of the population may be infected Across the entire continent, 21 million people in Africa had died by 2000 13 million children had been orphaned They remember their mothers, grieve them, and search for the loving care of adult women Every adult woman is a potential mama to them.I learned Teferra was not a saint Calling her a saint excuses the rest of us unsaintly people from doing anything The US and several other richer countries have pledged small percentages of their GNP towards the global AIDS crisis, but have not fulfilled their promises There is little political will here or elsewhere for international aid, particularly during this economy What aid does arrive is not always spent well On the ground organizations initiated by the host country are probably effective Adoption is not a viable solution to the orphan crisis it has to be systematic Many children are born with AIDS from their mothers, but a course of antiretroviral drugs during and six weeks after birth can prevent it from reaching the child Antiretroviral drugs are cheaper 60 80 child and effective now than they were, but they are still scarce I m left wanting desperately to do something Greene apparently gets this reaction a lot, since the book s website has a how to help section.Glad I listend to the audio version at the beginning, because it helped me with pronunciation.


  6. says:

    There is No Me Without You is meant to bring a human quality to the HIV AIDS epidemic in Africa and, specifically, Ethiopia Regardless of intention, this narrative is problematic I enjoyed Greene s ability to weave a historical background of the global AIDS epidemic and the storyline of Haregewoin together in the first half of the book The prose was enjoyable But this palatable story line is the sole reason this narrative, retold through the lens of an American women, proved dissonant There is No Me Without You fosters this idea that Ethiopians can only thrive when reliant on foreign assistance whitesaviorcomplex The book s central character, Haregewoin, is identified as a saint through much of the novel This identity is overwritten and forgotten as soon as affluent couples from abroad prove effective care takers Consider these quotes, Not many children get to travel the journey from starving African orphan on the brink of death, to the well fed, well loved child of a pair of teacher parents who ask, in high voices, Do you want your apple juice in the pink cup or the green cup, Ababu and, It turns out not to be very difficult for children to adapt to electricity and plumbing, a clean water supply, modern medicine, cars, groceries, paved streets, playgrounds, school, shoes, bikes, dance lessons, and loving parents It is true that there is much suffering in Africa but the problems are not because the people there have low moral codes or are lesser than Much of Africa has been ravaged by 1st world countries and left to pick up the pieces Keeping this thought in mind while reading is important The final part of this book spends an inordinate amount of time focusing on adoptive parents who commodify the children they adopt from the orphanage They spend time looking through catalogs, picking the best looking least traumatized child and then being surprised when their rescue orphan turns out well adjusted Greene s dismissal of the Ethiopian single mother Haregeweoin and applause for the nuclear family is glaring There is one moment in the book where Greene ironically considers the implications of outsourced adoptions It quickly appears only to dissolve in an instant The following scene involves an American husband and wife being served in Ethiopia at a restaurant by Ethiopian wait staff Rob chafed at the sight of couples like themselves All us chirpy, cherry white folk having breakfast with our African children, he thought Is there an imperialist angle to this Is adoption, on some level, another form of consumerism What is the meaning of white parents flying in from a rich country to adopt children of a poor black country Is this some kind of twenty first century plunder But by then he felt too sick with a stomach bug to think it through, and he set aside the misgiving for a later date Considering the implications of ones actions only to be distracted by an immediate need is the truest form of privilege.For a book that the Cleveland Plain Dealer claims captures the new face of AIDS in its most human terms I would argue that it is accomplished in perpetuating the idea that Africa would be nothing without the assistance of world powers.


  7. says:

    I wasn t anticipating the emotional journey this book would take me on I ve been sad, angry, happy, bereft, indignant, heartbroken, despairing, hopeful, and just about every other emotion you can imagine while I ve been reading it.I m so moved by the true life heroine of this book, Haregewoin Teferra who turned her grief after losing her husband and a daughter into a mission to rescue as many of the thousands of AIDS orphans in Ethiopia as she could handle, and then some The author doesn t paint Haregewoin as a Saint though She s flawed, but so amazing too.This book has made me reexamine my life and wonder whether I am living a meaningful life The only reason I m not granting this book 5 stars is that it was a little too long Some of the middle sections dragged on a bit I liked how the author balanced the personal stories with the statistical and historical data, and the journalist side of it all The parts about how the U.S handled the AIDS crisis in the U.S were a bit bleeding heart for my tastes.The stories at the end of the children who are adopted and how they adapt to their new families trump They are my favorite part of the whole book Can t wait to discuss this in book club tomorrow night


  8. says:

    This is an eye opening book about AIDS orphans in Ethiopia Melissa Fay Greene particularly focuses on the efforts of one woman who cares for those orphans Haregewoin Teferra was one of the few refuges for AIDS orphans in the earlier days of the pandemic Greene s tale doesn t seek to make Haregewoin into a saint, but shows her in all her courage and also her limited ability to handle the incredible task she takes on When the Western world begins to laud Haregewoin for her deeds, Greene also shows the backlash that results.There is also a terrific chapter that examines the theories about the origin of AIDS.There Is No Me Without You expands beyond Haregewoin s story to include the stories of Ethopian orphans who are adopted by Westerners, as well as the stories of others in Ethiopia who are helping the orphans I highly recommend this book to everyone You will not fail to be moved.


  9. says:

    Much like Half the Sky, this was one of those books I often found myself wishing everyone would read Briefly speaking, in There is No Me Without You, journalist Melissa Fay Greene explores the history of HIV AIDS, the subsequent plight in Africa specifically, Ethiopia , and how one woman reached out and tried to bring about change Insightful, educational and inspiring.


  10. says:

    This is one of the most profound, informative, and life altering books that I have ever read If I could give it six stars, I would.I started reading this book because I m a prospective adoptive parent, looking to adopt from Ethiopia I could not have picked a better book to explain the history and reality of HIV as well as the impact on the children of Ethiopia.This non fiction work is a story told in two parts The first aspect of the book covers the history of the development of HIV AIDS, how it actually spread throughout the world, and the many mistakes and misconceptions that we had of the disease as we became aware of it The second aspect of the book, told simultaneously is on Haregewoin Teferra, who was the first person in Ethiopia to start taking in AIDS orphans nomenclature means children who were orphaned by AIDS, not necessarily children with AIDS who were shunned from society, due to a lack of knowledge of how the disease was spread It was the combination of the cold hard facts of our mistakes and the sheer numbers of people who were impacted as well as the specific stories of children and how they were impacted by the epidemic that made this book real to me The details on the epidemiology of how HIV was actually created and spread she has a lengthy bibliography in back for you to check facts was shocking and appalling Our epidemiologists have known for 20 years how the disease is actually being spread, but we choose to continue to misunderstand and blame the people who are sick African people are not just living with their skirts up around their waists and being incredibly cavalier about their relations they are being infected when going to the doctors In the 1950 s, when NGO s started going to Africa to provide inoculations for a variety of illnesses that the people experienced there, they were all done via shots Subsequently, when people started feeling better, the cultural response was that the only way to get well was through receiving shots I had read this in Cutting for Stone as well, but most doctors in Ethiopia give patients shots no matter what is ailing them, because the patients don t feel that they will get well without one This would be harmless and placebo effect were it not for the fact that the doctors and NGO s do not have an appropriate quantity of needles, and do not sterilize the needles that they do have accurately In 2005, over 40M shots were given with unsterilized needles Imagine going to a doctor for a broken bone, and coming out infected with HIV This is actually happening today.Most disgusting, was the information provided that showed that the major Drug Companies had been able to influence international policy to allow them to extend their drug patents and prevent poor countries from creating generics for AIDS medication, or face international sanctions With these brand name drugs, the cost of medicating one person for one year is 20K Generics could be created and distributed for 300 a year and yet the big drug companies would rather have millions of people in Africa die than drop the pricing of their glamour drugs How are the parents who know that they have no hope receiving the medicine that can make them well protecting their children These people are shunned, they are abandoned, they can t work, they can t eat, and they can t take care of their children.Imagine what our children would do if their parents, teachers, coaches, daycare providers, grocers, and trash men died all around them How would they take care of their younger siblings What would they have to do in order to eat How easily could the adults who are alive take advantage of them 1 in 8 children in Ethiopia right now is an orphan How are they dealing with this Haregewoin Teferra was the first person to step up and open her home to the flood of children who needed help Her story is one of grief of losing her own daughter, and trying to fill that void with the children who needed her She took in two, then, four, then another and another, until she had over 80 children living in two houses 50 HIV negative, 30 HIV positive It shows her good intentions, how quickly it became out of control because there were so many children and she couldn t say no The book told the story of mistakes that Haregewoin made, how she started worrying about how to handle future children than the ones she had, how she fed the children on rice and noodles, because she wanted the money she had to be able to last years It showed how neighbors and local government agencies became jealous concerned about her, and how she was subsequently jailed for trumped up charges of child trafficking It showed her humility and the fact that although she was doing everything that she could, and living for these children she wasn t Mother Teresa.The book also told the story of specific orphans of Haregewoin s how they were dropped off by grandparents, or aunts, or neighbors, how they grieved for their families, how they adjusted, how they were adopted, and how they live now with their new families Seeing how each child was impacted by disease and famine, how their families gave them up to give them a chance to eat, and how they survived through it, really brought home the enormity of the problem.I would absolutely recommend this book to anyone who is interested in knowing the reality of HIV or of understanding the orphan crisis in Ethiopia.


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